I spent a lot of this weekend online holding horny conversations with other BDSM-ers – too much time really. But it did in the end have an outcome, even if the moral of the story is that it’s all getting a bit compulsive, and that I really need to cut back. Three guys I spent a lot of time chatting to encapsulate the dynamic mix of the weekend.
First, W: an older master from New Jersey, but a pretty fit one at that – one of those old professionals in leather, whose years of experience form an alluring part of their erotic attraction. He sends me regular pics of himself and his subs from hot scenes in his dungeon, many of them involving flogging – at which he is clearly a master. He even Photoshopped a pic from my own profile (from a scene I did last year) and made it look so hot I thought it was the nearest I’ll ever come to looking like an S & M pornstar (readers, you can judge for yourselves!).
W is such an intoxicating mix of the tough and the tender, that it makes me want to buy myself some chaps and an air ticket to his dungeon before the Summer’s out. The things he excites in me are (a) the possibility of a long, artfully paced flogging that could really get me to fly in some ultimate, transcendent state of S & M ecstasy (I know, it probably only exists as a fantasy); and (b) some yearning I hadn’t fully admitted to before for a master who is both powerful and would in some way take care of me (aah, in a fatherly kind of way – there I’ve admitted it!).
Second, there was S, my ‘slave brother’ who I mentioned in my last post. For him, chastity is a way of life, and certainly the way he seems to want to go permanently. Already nearly 80 days into his current bout of chastity (well with a little break, I think), he has two months or so to go under an online master from the far East who seems to dom him daily. This made my chastity-for-the-weekend stint look a little feeble. Still I have done much longer in the past, and in the end S got me to commit to a fortnight going orgasm free – and in an interesting way: he put me on to the website Lockedmen.net, where I duly set myself up a profile.
Locked Men is a great site, which has just about every resource a man-on-man chastity type could want. On it you can say when your latest stint began, how long you’re committing to doing, and who the in-person or online keyholder is. So I set up my 14-day stint, and found it kinda horny to be able to name S as my online keyholder – connection!
This was all a great way to bond with S, though the twist here is that in the end I kind of let him down through an unexpected contingency arising from my third online guy – I’ll call him JoSkin. I described a conversation with him in an earlier post – about his attention to the kind of protocol where a slave may not refer to himself (itself!) in the first person, or as as ‘he’ (only ‘it’, lower case). I had been hoping for a meet with JoSkin on the way down or back from my weekend away; but it looked like he wasn’t going to be around to host. He did find a way to dom me online, though, throughout much of Sunday (when I really should have been doing some stuff for work) – not only giving me things to do, but also getting me to send him photographic evidence.
One of those pics was of me with ‘JoSkin’s slave’ written across my chest. I’ve never graffitised myself before and found it hugely arousing. Even slept with it that way, only washing it off this morning. And having just done that, by some bizarre irony, I get a message from JoSkin saying he’s changed his arragnements and could do a session after all. Rapid change of plan, then; and we set the scene up. This includes my (re-)writing ‘JoSkin’s slave’ on my chest again – this time I get most of the charcters the right way round (it’s not as easy as it looks, writing on yourself – try it!).
So the scene happened. I won’t describe the details here (if you want to know, just ask). But suffice it so say, it was pretty hot, I got well into slave mode, and it did climax in the time-honoured way. I was a bit hesitant about confessing about this to S afterwards. But he was pretty decent about it – after telling me that I should regard the 100+ strokes I got from JoSkin’s flogger and paddle as a punishment from S himself for allowing myself to cum! Fair enough. We have now reset the counter, with the very modest goal of me getting to Sunday without orgasm.
Hopefully I can manage this! But interestingly, the very mixed BDSM dynamic of this weekend has taught me that maybe it’s good not to get too fixated either way. Sure, long-term chastity can keep you on a high, filled with testosterone and God knows what other hormones in the biochemical soup. But the post-ogasmic reconnection with one’s body – that state of relaxedness – is a pretty good feeling too. Both are ways to keep the body and mind as one (or closer to that ideal), and maybe we shouldn’t deny ourselves either.